How to Build True Self-Confidence

True self-confidence can be elusive. Even though people may project a confident exterior, they usually deep down harbor a lack of self-confidence.

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But people who genuinely are self-confident are oftentimes not self-aware. They don’t realize that their self-confidence is ill-founded. Because they don’t really know who they are. As a result, they deceive themselves.

True self-confidence has to start inside you. It will not come from things outside you. But it can be confirmed from things outside you.

Here’s how you can build true self-confidence.

Don’t Believe Everything You Think

Watch out for “Stinking Thinking” at These Three Times

Soon after my book Dear Boss: What Your Employees Wish You Knew became a #1 best seller in three categories, my thinking went into a downward spiral. I developed a defeatist attitude about the book, about myself, and about life. After about a day of wallowing in this funk, I realized I had to give myself a talking-to. Because I had to remind myself what was true. I had to remind myself that the book had 30 endorsements. I had to tell myself it received 18 glowing reviews. And I had to say out loud to myself that I thought it was a good book. Because I knew that I can’t believe everything I think.

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There will be times that you will have similar situations. You will feel beat down by circumstances—and sometimes you won’t even know why. You will get negative thought patterns stuck in continuous loop and you won’t know how to get out of it. That’s why you can’t believe everything you think.

Because those defeatist days will come, it’s important to know when they will come. Using biblical accounts as illustrations, here are some times to watch out for “stinking thinking.” Because you can’t believe everything you think.

The Six Keys to Great Messaging

co-written with Ben Case, Case Consulting Services Inc.

Good branding matters whether you work for a company or a nonprofit. Whether you’re selling a product or you’re selling an idea. And good branding requires great messaging.

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Before I started Transformational Impact LLC, I worked with my friend Ben Case at Case Consulting Services, Inc. Ben is reputedly one of the best major gift fundraisers in the world, having helped nonprofits raise more than $4.3 billion in his 40 years of fundraising.

In 2016, I helped Ben write a series on the Six Keys to Great Messaging. Here is a summary of those six keys.

Confirmed Speaker at 2018 Outcomes Conference

The Christian Leadership Alliance has invited me to be a speaker at the Chief HR Officer Forum during their Outcomes Conference April 17-19, 2018, in Dallas.

The faculty for this session include:

  • Debra Kellar, Vice-President of Finance and Campus Operations, Denver Seminary
  • Robert McFarland, President, Transformational Impact, LLC
  • Christine Talbot, Senior Vice President, Human Resources, World Vision U.S.
  • Dee Ann Turner, Vice President, Enterprise Social Responsibility, Chick-fil-A

For more information about the Outcomes Conference, or to register, visit outcomesconference.org.

Ten Questions to Evaluate Your Life Direction

Make Time This Year to Determine If You Are On the Right Road

It’s easy to get off track in your career, in your marriage, in your life. That’s why it is important to evaluate your life direction.

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There are many times I have gone into a room and forgotten why I went in the room to begin with. At one point I was aware of the purpose I was to go in the room for, but by the time I got there I forgot what that purpose was.

That same thing can happen in life as well. You might achieve a milestone but forget why it had been important to you.

Take time to consider these ten questions. Think through your life direction so that you can become the person you want to be—while you can still change course.

How to Live up to Your God-Given Potential

This One Thing Will Change the Way You See Everything

Most people don’t discover God’s vision for their lives. Even if they did discover what God’s vision for their life was, they wouldn’t believe that they could do it. As a result, most people are frustrated with their lives. Because they don’t live up to their God-given potential.

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Here’s a simple exercise.  Answer the following questions:

  1. Do you believe that God is all powerful?
  2. Do you believe that God can use any instrument to accomplish his purposes?
  3. If God called you to achieve something you thought impossible, could you accomplish it?

That’s why you need to see yourself as God sees you. Here’s how you can find out God’s vision for your life, so you can live up to your God-given potential.

How to Make Time for Your Priorities

Why Integration—Not Balance—Should Be Your Goal

I once heard someone say, “Priorities are what gets done. Everything else is just talk.” You have the time for all your priorities. You just have to make time. Not by balancing your priorities, but by integrating your life.

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When I say integrating, I am talking about the opposite of compartmentalizing. When you see your life as a whole—and not the sum of parts—then you will better be able to make time for what is important. Besides, you will never be able to achieve balance in your life. Something will always outweigh everything else in your schedule. But if you integrate your life, you can make time for what is important to you.

Here’s how you can integrate your life to make time for your priorities.

How to Overcome Past Failures

How to Achieve What You Want to in Life

Most people settle for what they can achieve in life. They don’t become all that they can be. Because they are not able to overcome past failures.

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Failure is not something we should fear. Instead we should look at failure the right way. Thomas Edison reportedly said, “I have not failed 10,000 times. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Approaching failure with Edison’s perspective will make failure your servant and not your master.

Here are three things you can do to overcome past failures and achieve what you want to achieve in life.

De-Mystifying Strategic Planning

Three Basic Steps to Developing a Strategic Plan

Strategic planning seems overly complex to many people. There are many different methodologies to choose from in approaching the strategic planning process. But there are basic steps involved in all strategic planning processes, and understanding those steps will help leaders in de-mystifying strategic planning.

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Many organizations don’t take the time to do strategic planning because they don’t understand it. Because it sounds more complex than it really is.

Here are the basic three steps to understanding and de-mystifying strategic planning.