How to Give a Real Apology

And it’s not about how you can save face

In today’s culture, you don’t often see people give a real apology. They don’t even acknowledge that they have done anything wrong. They make excuses for their behavior, and they try to skirt around the issue. As a result, they say nothing of any importance, and their relationship with the offended party worsens.

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Today nobody expects anyone to apologize anymore. People want to save face and pretend that they haven’t done anything wrong. Politicians say they are “sorry IF they have offended anyone.” But that doesn’t deal with anything and it doesn’t help their credibility improve.

So what does a real apology look like? Here are three steps to making a real apology and what you can expect to happen as a result.

Integrity Means All the Time

by Benjamin R. Case, President, Case Consulting Services, Inc.

When is it important to have integrity? Some of the time or all of the time? My friend Ben Case, President of Case Consulting Services, has been a hallmark of integrity as long as I have known him. And he tells a powerful story to explain to importance of integrity.


Before I started Transformational Impact LLC, I worked with Ben. He is reputedly one of the best major gift fundraisers in the world, having helped nonprofits raise more than $4.3 billion in his 40 years of fundraising. And he shares his expertise six days a week in the Tip o’ the Morning, a one-minute read covering the basic principles of fundraising (and sometimes life) that we need to know and practice to be successful.

Even though I no longer work with Ben, I still occasionally write a Tip o’ the Morning. And I am pleased to post an occasional Tip from Ben on my blog. Here’s Ben’s Most Valuable Tip (MVT) #44 entitled, “When Are You Going to Have Integrity—Some of the Time or All of the Time? Integrity Means All the Time.

What People Miss When Reading Biblical Narratives

Three Caveats for Understanding Scriptural Historical Accounts

When reading the scriptural accounts of the heroes of the faith, it’s easy to lose the most important lessons. I know I have read all of the biblical narratives at least ten or twelve times. But there are many things that I missed because I wasn’t looking for them. And neither was I clued in to appreciate them.


The Scriptures teach a lot without directly saying it. Much of the stuff worth picking up from the biblical accounts is implied. Readers have to be willing to go a little deeper, using information and experiences that everyone can relate to, in order to process the lessons of Scripture.

Here are three important points for looking at the people in these historical accounts.

How to Handle Being a Spiritual Target as a Leader

Three Ways to Strengthen Yourself as a Leader Spiritually

Because you are a leader, you are a spiritual target. You have people depending on you to do the right thing. And the enemy of your soul wants to take you down.

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Pastors are leaders with big targets on their backs. But business leaders have targets on their backs too. And parents especially have targets on their backs. Because all these leaders carry the responsibility of leading and caring for those in their charge.

It is imperative to watch out for how you can be targeted by the enemy of your soul. Here are some warning signs from James 1:14 to help you handle being a spiritual target.

Why You Are Not Disqualified to Serve God

Even When You Mess Up Again and Again

There will be times that you feel you can do nothing right. There will be times you will feel that you can’t get your spiritual life on track. You’ll feel at times that you are poisoning the relationships you have with others. You will feel at times that you can’t get a handle on the sins that you commit. But that doesn’t mean God is finished with you. Because you are not disqualified to serve God.

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When you continue to stumble in specific areas of your life, you can still be used by God. Don’t hear what I’m not saying. You should NOT be content to sin and cause havoc in your life and in your relationships. It is important to admit the sin, repent of it, hate the sin, and put it away from you. But it is OK if you still wrestle with sin in your life. The key is that you keep wrestling.

The enemy of your soul will try to convince you that you are useless to God. The enemy of your soul will try to tell you that you might as well give up and give into the temptation. But you are not disqualified to serve God because of your sin. It’s how you handle it that matters.

Here are some heroes of the faith from Scripture who had sin issues—but God used them nonetheless because they were not disqualified to serve Him.

How Much Do You Show Your Faith?

In your everyday life, how much do you show your faith? Is your faith evidenced by what you do each day? Or do you show your faith only on Sundays?

Show Your Faith

I’m not asking if you preach the Gospel from the street corner every day. I’m asking if your everyday actions are intentionally a result of your faith.

James says that faith without works is dead faith (James 2:20). James also says that he shows his faith by his works (James 2:18). Here’s how Scripture can help you consider your ways to see how much you show your faith.

How God Works Through Little Victories

God wants to transform you into His image. He wants to help you change from one level of glory to another (2 Corinthians 3:18). And He wants your little victories to become big victories.

Little Victories

The process of sanctification will take time. It will take effort on your part. And it will require your active obedience.

Here’s how obedience to God brings about sanctification—through little victories.

How Faith and Work Are Complementary

It seems that faith and work are perceived as contradictory in the business world. People think that trusting God doesn’t require that you follow good business practices. Or they think that putting in disciplined effort means that you don’t trust God to provide. The truth is that faith and work complete each other.

faith and work

You can demonstrate how your faith impacts your work and how your work reinforces your faith. You don’t have to choose one over the other—because faith and work are complementary.

Here are three steps for meaningfully pursuing both your faith and work.

Why Your Work Matters to God

Is God interested in what you do for a living? Or do you think God thinks your work matters?

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Does God care if you trade stocks, lay tile, or raise cattle? Does God bother with such mundane things? Or does God only care about what we do if we go into the ministry?

God cares about whatever you do. Here’s why your work matters to God.

Why the First Step Is the Most Important

Change is hard. It’s not easy to do something new. Especially if you’ve been doing something else for a long time. But you have to be willing to take that first step.

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It’s tempting to think that biblical heroes of the faith were always that way. But great men of the Bible were just men who put their faith in action.

Here’s a look at three biblical heroes who had to make a big change. But they were willing to make that first step.