How to Influence Others by Expressing Gratitude

Everyone wants to hear someone else thank them. But how often are you expressing gratitude to others?

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You might think it will sound forced or cheesy if you thank someone else, but you probably just feel awkward saying it. If someone else has genuinely thanked you, then you know how good that feels when someone thanks you. Since you want to hear it, learn how to overcome that awkwardness about expressing gratitude to the people around you.

Here are three guidelines for expressing gratitude.

What Words Do You Say About Yourself?

What words do you say about yourself? When you are talking to others, how do you describe yourself? And when you are alone, what comes out of your mouth? With the words you say, do you bless or curse yourself?


You may not even be aware of how you speak about yourself. But your words have consequences. The Scripture says out of your mouth proceed blessing and cursing (James 3:10). So which one do you use on yourself?

Here are 14 questions to ask yourself to find out whether you bless or curse yourself with your words.

Why You Should Do What You Say You Will Do

It’s one thing to tell yourself or others what you will do someday. It’s another thing to do it. That’s why it’s important to do what you say you will do.

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You have dreams and goals you want to see realized. You may even have things on your heart that God has told you to do. As you know, words will not make those things happen. Action will.

By taking action, here are three results that will happen—if you do what you say you will do.

How to Help Your Team Consistently Improve with Constructive Feedback

As a leader, you want your team to consistently improve their performance as a team.  But a team needs constructive feedback to produce consistent improvement.  So you will help your team stay on track if you provide them with compassionate and positive course corrections.

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Instead of pointing out only what your team is doing wrong, give them constructive feedback in a way that they don’t feel stupid about what they’re doing wrong. When you correct your team, what you say matters as much as how you say it.

Your brand health will depend on your culture health.  And your culture health will depend on the tone you set as a leader.  As the old adage goes, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

Here are three pointers for giving your team constructive feedback for their consistent improvement.

How Your Self-Talk Will Affect Your Life

What you expect will come your way.  It is a biblical principle: you will become whatever you believe in your heart (Proverbs 23:7).  That’s why your self-talk is so important.


Fear and faith are two opposite concepts.  But they both are self-fulfilling.  Both imply a belief system that will support their fulfillment.

We have a choice to make.  We can either choose to listen to faith or listen to fear.  What we listen to will determine how we think.  And how we act.  And what we say.

Here are three ways your self-talk will affect your life.

Three Unhelpful Words You Should Never Say to Yourself

It’s important for you to take stock of your life.  You should review what’s happened, so you can retool for the future.  But don’t stay focused on the past.  And especially don’t say three unhelpful words to yourself.

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When we’re reviewing the past, we sometimes beat ourselves up about what didn’t happen.  But that doesn’t help the past.  It doesn’t help our present.  And it sure doesn’t help our future.

While I am guilty of saying these three unhelpful words to myself, I am trying to weed them out of my speech pattern.  And I hope you will too.

Are Your Priorities in the Right Place?

Do you have your priorities in the right place?  Is what you say is most important to you really what is most important to you?


We all have good intentions.  But we also know that the road to hell is paved with those good intentions.  So are we really putting our priorities into practice?

Here is a quick three-step test to find out if you are putting your priorities into practice.

Why We Have to Be Willing to Say Hard Things

No one ever wants to have to say hard things.  We don’t want to have those direct and difficult conversations.  Where we fire someone.  Or correct someone.  Or have to tell them “No.”

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But we show our genuine love for someone when we are willing to say hard things.  Because we want the best for the people on our team.  Whether it’s our family or our firm.

Digging into Proverbs 13:24, we find three thoughts to guide those difficult conversations.

The Importance of Gratitude in Your Daily Life

We all believe it is important to be grateful.  We all have so much that we can say we are grateful for.  But how often do we practice gratitude?


There are people in our lives who desperately need to hear that they are appreciated.  But nobody would say that they are appreciated too much.

And we as humans have a need to express gratitude—to keep our minds from focusing too much on ourselves.

So how can we cultivate a practice of gratitude in our daily lives?  Here are three steps to get you started.

How to Create a Culture of Appreciation at Home or Work

We all want to hear that someone else appreciates us.  But how often do we go out of our way to express appreciation to others?  Home and work would be better places if we fostered a culture of appreciation there.

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We seem to think it will sound forced or cheesy if we say that we appreciate someone else.  But in reality, it’s because we feel awkward saying it.

How can we create a culture of appreciation at home or work? Here are three points to remember as you intentionally express your appreciation to others.