As you think through what you want to do differently in the coming year, it’s important to think through how you will change you in 2019. You can’t change your circumstances until you change yourself first.
Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity. Do not do that to yourself. If you want to have different results, you must change you first.
You will be the same person in ten years that you are right now—unless you change these three things.
Lately I have had to deal with a lot of things that are outside my comfort zone. Sometimes I feel like I am being stretched beyond the breaking point. Even though change is uncomfortable, I realize it is still good for me. I just have to be willing to be gentle with myself in the process.
That does not mean that I should give myself a pass. I should not allow myself to stay where I am. I have to be willing to be molded by God into what He wants me to be. But I should also not beat myself up about where I am at now. I may not yet be the person I want to be, but neither should I castigate myself that I am not yet there. Change is hard, so I should not be hard on myself.
I’m sure you have found change to be hard. And you should not be hard on yourself either as you go through it. Allow God to work in you. Allow Him to mold you and shape you. It may not be comfortable at the time, but it will be worth it.
Here are three reasons why you should be gentle with yourself as you go through change.
I have two sons who are weightlifters. They like to work out together, and they lift a whole lot more than I remember lifting when I was their age. They enjoy pushing themselves to the point that it hurts. That’s when the muscle gets microtears and rebuilds bigger and stronger. In order to see the growth they want, they know they have to be willing to be uncomfortable.
Like my sons’ weightlifting, your personal growth depends on how much you are stretched through difficult times. You become more of the person you can be as a result of trials. That means it benefits you to be uncomfortable.
Here are three ways you grow through being uncomfortable.
Change happens to everyone. Most people don’t like it. It puts them out of sorts. They feel uncomfortable with change. But change is a natural process. You should expect it. And you should learn how to welcome change.
When some of our kids were younger, any time my wife and I moved any furniture around the house, it would bother them terribly. They would want us to put it back the way it was. And it would take a while for them to accept the change.
What about you? What do you think about change? Does it bother you? Or are you able to welcome change in your life?
It is important for you to welcome change into your life. Change is good. You were made to change. You are expected to be transformed. As you grow in your faith, your life should reflect more and more of the glory of God (2 Corinthians 3:18).
Don’t believe the lie that you are incapable of change. And don’t let fear of change prevent you from becoming the person who God created you to be. You are capable of change. You can become the person you want to be. And you can change to have stronger and deeper relationships in your life. You can change.
If change bothers you—or if you don’t think you can change—then do these three things.