How to Change the Person You Will Become

There are always things about ourselves that we want to change.  Maybe it’s how much we weigh.  Or how much we sleep.  Or how often we take vacations.  But we will only change those things about ourselves if we change the person we will become.


It’s not easy to change.  We tend to resist it.  Even when we are the ones who are trying to initiate it.  The odds are that we will not change—or at least not change much.

You will be the same person in ten years that you are right now—unless you change these three things.


1. The books you read


To change the person you will become, adjust your thinking.  The most effective way to positively adjust your thinking is by being exposed to good ideas.  And the best way to introduce yourself to good ideas is by reading good books.

By reading good books, you will fill your mind with what you want it filled with.  In this hyper-marketed culture we live in, you are constantly being assaulted by ideas.  Only by reading good books can you fill your mind with the right ones.

There are many good books to read.  If you’d like a starter reading list, email me.  (I will give you a hint as to what tops my reading list: it is the #1 best-selling book of all time.)


2. The people you meet


To change the person you will become, allow yourself to meet new people.  We will become like the people we surround ourselves with.

First think through what kind of people you want to meet.  What kind of people do you hang around now?  How is the person you want to become different from them?  What kind of people do you need to meet in order to become the person you want to be?

The best way to meet the right people is to be where they will be.  Where do these people congregate?  Where do you have to go to meet them?  Once you figure that out, go find them and get to know them.


3. The goals you set


To change the person you will become, set new goals for yourself.

When you set goals, set big goals.  As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said,

Dream no small dreams, for they have no power to move the hearts of men. 

To reach your goals, allow your habits to change first.  As Ralph Waldo Emerson famously said,

Sow a thought and you reap an action;

sow an act and you reap a habit;

sow a habit and you reap a character;

sow a character and you reap a destiny.

It’s the little changes you make every day that will make the person you want to become.  And it all starts with reading the right books, meeting the right people, and setting the right goals.


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