How Will You Change You in 2019?

You Will Be the Same Person in Ten Years — Unless You Change Three Things

As you think through what you want to do differently in the coming year, it’s important to think through how you will change you in 2019. You can’t change your circumstances until you change yourself first.

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Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity. Do not do that to yourself. If you want to have different results, you must change you first.

You will be the same person in ten years that you are right now—unless you change these three things.

Consider Your Personality Trajectory

Who You Hang Around Influences Who You Will Become

How’s your personality trajectory? Do you like the person you are becoming? Do you feel you are becoming more like the person you want to be? If not, it may have something to do with the people you hang around. You will become like who you hang around.

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Think through what kind of person you want to become. And consider the people you hang around. To change your personality trajectory, allow yourself to meet new people. You will become like the people you surround yourself with.

Here are three key questions you must ask yourself in order to be aware of the influence that the people you hang around have over you.

Stick With It

Don’t Get Distracted, Disengaged, or Discouraged

About twenty years ago, I tried to get a nonprofit off the ground. I launched a new initiative in my community to kick start it. I spent a lot of time on the phone recruiting sponsors for the event. And I communicated with a government agency to have a public official at the event. And I worked with various media to garner attention for the event—before social media. After all that work, I thought, “This was too much. I can’t do this again. It’s too hard.” I decided I couldn’t stick with it.

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Several months later, I was talking to a nonprofit leader about that experience. When I told him that I abandoned the idea of starting up the organization, he was surprised. He said, “It took me three years to get this organization up and running. Why would you think it would take you less time than that? Why didn’t you stick with it?”

At the time I didn’t realize how long it took to start a nonprofit organization. I had unrealistic expectations about how quickly I could get it going. Once I quit, it would never be as easy to keep it going as it would have been, had I not quit. I had already had a successful event. I had already gotten the attention of media. And I already had a connection with a public official’s office. When I quit, all that work I had done was lost. And it would have been even harder to start after that.

Don’t quit too soon. It’s important to stick with it. Watch out for these three things that will make you want to quit—and here’s what you can do to overcome them.

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In my appearance on The Table podcast hosted by Bill Hendricks, we discussed Active Leadership, focusing on employee engagement. Specifically, we talked about

  • What employee engagement is,
  • My research into employee engagement,
  • The power of Active Leadership, and
  • The theology of Active Leadership.

You can watch the interview or read the transcript of the interview by clicking here.

I’d love to hear what you think!

Date: October 23, 2018
Appearance: Active Leadership Interview on The Table Podcast
Outlet: The Table Podcast
Location: Dallas Theological Seminary (Dallas, TX)
Format: Podcast

Be Gentle with Yourself

Change is Hard, So Don’t Be Hard on Yourself

Lately I have had to deal with a lot of things that are outside my comfort zone. Sometimes I feel like I am being stretched beyond the breaking point. Even though change is uncomfortable, I realize it is still good for me. I just have to be willing to be gentle with myself in the process.

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That does not mean that I should give myself a pass. I should not allow myself to stay where I am. I have to be willing to be molded by God into what He wants me to be. But I should also not beat myself up about where I am at now. I may not yet be the person I want to be, but neither should I castigate myself that I am not yet there. Change is hard, so I should not be hard on myself.

I’m sure you have found change to be hard. And you should not be hard on yourself either as you go through it. Allow God to work in you. Allow Him to mold you and shape you. It may not be comfortable at the time, but it will be worth it.

Here are three reasons why you should be gentle with yourself as you go through change.

Three Ways You Grow through Being Uncomfortable

You Grow the Most through Uncomfortable Situations

I have two sons who are weightlifters. They like to work out together, and they lift a whole lot more than I remember lifting when I was their age. They enjoy pushing themselves to the point that it hurts. That’s when the muscle gets microtears and rebuilds bigger and stronger. In order to see the growth they want, they know they have to be willing to be uncomfortable.

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Like my sons’ weightlifting, your personal growth depends on how much you are stretched through difficult times. You become more of the person you can be as a result of trials. That means it benefits you to be uncomfortable.

Here are three ways you grow through being uncomfortable.

Eternal Leadership PodcastIn my interview with John Ramstead and Sandra Crawford Willamson on the Eternal Leadership Podcast, I shared the principles I wrote about in my book, Dear Boss: What Your Employees Wish You Knew.

What you’ll learn in this interview:

  • How to mix faith into the workplace without being pushy
  • How to create a transformational impact on the people who work for us
  • The “lost skill” that one needs to develop in order to lead effectively
  • Why it’s important to “think about what we’re thinking about”
  • How to gain and earn your team’s trust
  • How to create your organization’s culture
Date: October 17, 2018
Appearance: How to Be the Best Boss on Eternal Leadership Podcast
Outlet: Eternal Leadership
Format: Podcast

Clean the Barnacles off of Your Mind

Remove What Has Become Attached to Your Thinking

Have you ever seen barnacles attached to a ship? These little crustaceans latch onto a marine vessel and hold onto the ship to feed. While they may seem harmless enough, they cause many problems for the vessel. Similarly, you can have things that become attached to your mind over time. You may not be aware of them at first, but eventually they can cause you many problems.

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People who work on a ship understand that it’s important to remove the barnacles. In the same way, it’s important for you to get remove these things that have become attached to your mind.

Here’s what you want to prevent becoming attached to your mind, how they are similar to barnacles, and what you can do to clean those things from your mind.

You Become in the Doing

You Don’t Have to Have It All Together to Begin

People usually think that you have to have everything all mapped out before you can pursue your dreams, goals, and visions. Many people think that you have to anticipate every situation before you can begin. But if you do it that way, you will never start. Because you can never be prepared for everything. You just have to be ready to begin. You will become who you need to be in the doing.

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While it’s important to have an idea of where you’re going to go, nothing ever happens according to plan. As Dwight D. Eisenhower said, “plans are useless, but planning is indispensable.” So don’t be wedded to your plans. But be willing to step out and begin.

You will never know all that you need to know to be successful when you start. You will find that out along the way. The key is to be willing to move forward even if you don’t have it all together. You will learn what you need to know as you progress.

Here are three things that will try to trip you up before you can even begin. So be on your guard against these three success killers.